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The Very Best of R.K. Narayan (Timeless Malgudi)

The Very Best of R.K. Narayan (Timeless Malgudi)

Two decades ago, as a little girl, I was mesmerized by Malgudi days. The program was telecast on Doordarshan with a new RK Narayan story every episode. I loved RK Narayan then, and I still love his stories. There can be no better author who can describe the magic of everyday life, the common man, his pains, joys, and his zest in life.  

RK Narayan may not be amidst us today, but his writing career that spanned over seven decades still speaks volumes. His fictitious town Malgudi, and its host of unforgettable characters sure do win over hearts even now. For me, RK Narayan lives on, fresh, and his stories never fail to give me joy.

“How can two living entities possessing intelligence and judgement ever be tied together for a lifetime?”
― R.K. Narayan, Malgudi Days

The book “The Very Best of RK Narayan, Timeless Malgudi”, is a selection of his best- both fiction as well as Nonfiction. It has the timeless short stories such as A Horse and two goats and Astrologers day. The popular fiction The Guide charms you with its wit and humor. The compilation offers a good variety of tales. Each of the stories present everyday life with elegance, and with a humorous twist at times. And probably that’s the reason why I love RK Narayan so much.

Read one story a day at bed time and see the magic these tales weave on you.

If you love RK Narayan short stories, this book would surely not disappoint you. The book is available as a free read under Kindle Unlimited for e book readers!!

The Day I Stopped Drinking Milk-Sudha Murty

The Day I Stopped Drinking Milk-Sudha Murty

Reading real life stories are often so much more enjoyable than fiction. Sudha Murty’s “The Day I Stopped Drinking Milk” is one such book. The pages bring out Sudha Murty’s experiences as she lays down her learning on humanity and life.

It may seem to be no great literary work; yet, this book will surely win your heart over. There is absolutely no use of complex words; with the most simplistic form of narration. The book is a collection of 23 short stories and each one of them would leave you taking a peek into your inner self. The Day I Stopped Drinking Milk captivated me from its first page right till the end.

“It is very difficult to earn trust. It takes years to build and it can be destroyed in an instant by one bad deed. Trust requires an enormous amount of integrity and you have to prove every time that you are worthy of it. I am very grateful to our society and community.”
― Sudha Murty, The Day I Stopped Drinking Milk: Life Lessons from Here and There

What sets the book apart is that the stories aren’t fiction but real life experiences. Sudha Murty takes you on journeys across India, from Bombay, to Bangalore, to Orissa, places where she has touched lives through the Infosys foundation.

I loved the story of Vishnu, who achieves material success but knows not what happiness is. Another tale that gave me a sense of optimism, is that of a young girl who runs away from her step mom’s home, to be later found on a train bound to Bangalore. That journey changed the course of her life. All of the stories are about people, the kinds we all bump into every single day, in our office, home and neighborhood.

A light inspirational read with an amazing takeaway that would linger long in your mind. For those who don’t like voluminous books, and seek some quick food for thought, this book is a perfect read.

Book Review- The Spy By Paulo Coelho

Book Review- The Spy By Paulo Coelho

The Spy is Coelho’s account of the accused World War 1 double Spy – Mata Hari. He places his story close to the real facts; well of course in his own style. For those who aren’t familiar with who Mata Hari is, this book could be an eye opener on who she was.  I wouldn’t call it a spy thriller, but a historical drama pre-World War 1, written in an autobiographical style. Not a very bulky book, I managed to complete it in a single reading.

The Spy- Story of Mata Hari 

Mata Hari was executed by a firing squad in Paris on Oct. 15, 1917. Born Margaretha Zelle to a bourgeois family in Holland, she was raped by her school principal at the age of 16. Desperate to leave Holland soon after, she marries a Dutch army captain and moves to Indonesia. However, the officer abuses her physically and sexually for years. After attending a military function, where she witnesses another military wife’s suicide and a performance by Javanese dancers, Margaretha is inspired to rebel and return to Europe.

She soon makes her way to Paris, and reincarnates herself as Mata Hari, to become an erotic dancer where she combines Java-esque dance moves and strip tease. With her titillating performances, she quickly catapults to fame in the priciest nightclubs and becomes the toast of Paris. At a time when tensions among nations build up, Mata Hari is invited to perform in Berlin. Oblivious to the approaching hostilities of the War, she goes only to find that she is being recruited as a spy for the Kaiser.  What follows is a twist of fate for Mata Hari and she is caught in a web of political Vendetta.

Mata Hari as she was!

“Love is an act of faith & its face should always be covered in mystery. Every moment should be lived with feeling & emotion because if we try to decipher it & understand it, the magic disappears.”
― Paulo Coelho, The Spy

Narration style

The book traces the entire story of Mata Hari through two fictional letters- one written by Mata Hari to her defense attorney, M. Clunet; and another written by Clunet to Mata Hari. I liked this style, where Mata Hari narrates her own story, unmasking her persona, life and desires. The helplessness in Clunet on not being able to save her from the firing squad is well depicted too. Through this narration, Coelho has brought out facets of Mata Hari, as a deeply flawed woman, and whose sexuality helped her gain power and favors. She has the skill to influence men, having her own inflated sense of power, very often behaving recklessly.

What failed in the book

Despite bringing about a sympathetic feel to Mata Hari, I found her depiction pretty sketchy. The book breathes and speaks Mata Hari. Yet, I felt an element of inadequacy in the story line. There seemed an abruptness in the way the book saw its end. 

Take away from the book

Not really Paulo Coelho’s usual, but surely worth a one time read. If I had to pick out one thing that lingered on after I closed that last page, it is the fact that Mata Hari defied male expectations of her time and dared to live an unconventional life. And that’s one reason why her story deserves a read.

The Magic of Warmth!

The Magic of Warmth!

“A soldier doesn’t fight because he hates what is in front of him. A soldier fights because he loves what he left behind.” – Unknown

It was for the third time that we had to cancel our planned vacation. The bags lay half packed on the bed, as I looked up at his stoic face. His eyes said it all; the vacation was not going to happen for some time to come. I didn’t utter a word the entire day.

It’s overwhelming indeed!

From the time of the Great World Wars, there have been abundant discussions and dialogues’ describing what life for a soldier is like. Movies and bestsellers have well portrayed human experiences and mental outlook during difficult military deployments. However, there has been little attention on the effects these deployments have on the wife. When the man of the house is away on military operations, the family experiences significant stress, and dealing with it could be overwhelming.

The wife goes through loneliness, pressures of extensive separation, potential difficulty in bringing up children, disruption in family roles and many a times a feeling of a loss of emotional support.

I didn’t bid goodbye!

And when the unit “Husband” belongs to, decides to make last minute changes to its schedule, holidays planned with families may never see the light of the day. The air of disappointment lingered around as I sulked when the “Husband” picked up his bag to leave. It was evident- there would be a month of separation. The complex emotions were hard to counter, and I stood still without bidding him the ritual goodbye I had been doing so for the last decade.

Loneliness- When kids weave a magic to overcome it

I sat that night on my bed, looking outside the window. The vast expanse of the night created a deeper sense of loneliness. As I propped up my pillow, I felt my 8 year old’s hands moving through my hair. They felt warm as she gently massaged drops of oil with her tiny fingers. Children have this uncanny sense of understanding, of feelings that are seldom spoken. They are better able to comprehend what is not expressed in words and gestures, but what is evident in facial expressions.

Sensing my mood, she felt it right to just give me-her mother- a touch of warmth, hoping it would smooth things over.

I let her move her little hands through my hair, as the warm coconut oil sooth my temples. I closed my eyes. Maybe I was being unreasonable. Being married to the man in uniform, my life is a jumble of both joyous and lonely moments. And it is best I take one day at a time. Well, I wasn’t sure if it was the warmth of the oil or her tiny fingers that brought about this realization to me.

It was a magic of warmth moment indeed!!!!!

“I’m blogging about my #MagicOfWarmth moment at BlogAdda in association with Parachute Advansed Hot Oil

 

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The Road is My Therapist!

The Road is My Therapist!

found the road by mistake. I decided to go out for a brief drive on Sunday morning and suddenly found myself itching for some more alone time, driving on NH-66. I had intended to explore a spice garden I had heard good things about.

Terrain less explored

I sure am lucky to be living in a small town on the Konkan coast of India. A terrain less explored, the district of Uttar Karnataka is lush green, with hills and valleys on one side and the lashing waves of the Arabian Sea on the other. I live inside a beautiful Cantonment, with neatly laid out roads and scenic beauty, which opens out in front of my eyes every single day. I am spoiled indeed now and, can never really settle down in a crowded metro again.

So I drove…and drove, down the national highway, onto rural routes that twisted and bent through forests of Karnataka- for no other reason than that I had an urge to go on. I was on my own, wrapped in solitude, lost in thought, when I missed that crucial turn, finding myself at the head of a blocked-off road. A “kachcha rasta” lay ahead, and beyond it lay a blue stretch of sea, winding and unblemished. I sat still for a few minutes wondering if I must go ahead and just take one little peak of the sea. As I accelerated, the car growled through the muddy road at every arc, and the sun cast a high-speed flicker of shadows from behind the bare trees. It was fun, exhilarating and when I hit the end of the road, the feeling that I got was truly a new high. I wasn’t ready for the adventure to be over.

This is the marvelous thing about driving. You could head off to anyplace, find a diversion and explore.

I seek neither a private racetrack nor a plush vehicle

Yet I am drawn to the road. Many a times a simple cycle does the magic. Whether it is a quick lap around the neighborhood, or out onto the highway away from the maddening crowds, it untangles my mind. A spontaneous hour long trip to “no-where’s land” could get me contemplating over life’s great mysteries.

My car has become my therapist. I play a good playlist and hum away the blues. I just don’t feel like stopping the vehicle until I feel better. I drive, I think, I imagine….What attracts me the most, is being alone in the car and going places, seldom planned for. My drive on NH 66 was hardly the Arabian coast highway. Yet, I found it exciting and invigorating.

A drive is often my meaningful short escape. What’s yours?

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REVIEW OF Movie LOVE & LOVE ONLY

REVIEW OF Movie LOVE & LOVE ONLY

What happens when a rich Indian student in Australia, falls in love with an Australian girl, who is also crazily in love with him? Would the difference in culture bother him? Would he go against his parents’ wishes, or succumb to what they want for him? This weekend I watched a light romantic film titled Love & only Love. The movie beautifully portrayed a cross cultural romance between an Indian and an Australian.

Light Romantic Movie with Brilliant Music

Love & Love only is an English Language Australian film, directed by Indian-born Australian filmmaker Julian Karikalan. The movie stars Rohit Kalia, who was Mr. India Australia in 2014 and Sydney based Georgia Nicholas in lead roles. The background score and songs have been composed by India’s legendary composer Maestro Illayaraaja who has scored music for over 1000 feature films. This happens to be his first ever English language feature film for which he has composed original songs.

Launched on November 22 2016, for the online audience, the movie is available as paid content. Since its launch it has been well appreciated the world over, garnering positive response.

The Storyline

Krish aka Krishna lands in Australia, to prove to his father that he is indeed capable of learning all about business and life. He enrolls for an MBA program and struggles to adapt to the Australian ways. He has always been pampered by his mom back home in India. However the world now is different and he has to not only earn his own living but must also learn survival skills. Working in a grocery store, he meets Stacey an Australian co-worker. A school dropout from a broken family, Stacey falls in love with Krish and his honest ways. Krish soon falls in love too, with Stacey. He also manages to take a step towards achieving his business goals by getting an opportunity to start a new venture- a travel company. How does Krishna tackle the relationship? Do the cultural differences create problems between them? Is he able to prove to his father on his capability of running a business? Love and Love only is an intricate web and gamut of emotions and relationships.

Characters in the Movie

The movie stars Indian-Australian actor Rohit Kalia and Sydney-based actress Georgia Nicholas in the lead roles. The supporting cast includes Ambika Asthana, Sashi Dandekar and Suparna Mallick among others. Despite being new comers, the acting is realistic and, definitely on par with many big budget actors. Well expressed emotions, the lead pair have the right chemistry that is carried throughout the film.

Direction

Crisp direction keeps the movie fast paced. With a meaningful storyline, the director has been able to depict much more than just the romance in the tale. He has brought out the key differences between the two cultures, as well as the similarities that exist in the emotions of all humans. There is a gradual progression in the scenes, from the protagonist being a pampered momma’s boy, to his coming of age and becoming an independent hardworking man.

Music

Illayaraaja’s music does justice to every bit of the emotion expressed in the movie. The original song of the movie “Am I in love” is soothing to listen, with a range of instruments adding melody, and meaningful lyrics. A perfect composition to suit the storyline. The background music is beautiful and up-lifting.

The movie was previewed at the International Film and Entertainment Festival of Australia last December where it received two awards (Best Musical Score and Best Direction).

For those who love light hearted meaningful romance, Love and Love only would be an enjoyable watch. If you are seeking a movie with some soul stirring music for your lazy Sunday afternoon, then this is surely the movie for you. Cuddle up with a loved one, sip that warm coffee and soak yourself in this brilliant cross culture film that’s definitely worth a watch.

A Page from Chennai And its Mega Stores

A Page from Chennai And its Mega Stores

It sure does take a great deal of research to make a movie with a realistic story. I recently watched one such Tamil movie called Angadi Theru (Eng: Market Street). This heart wrenching movie revolves around life in a mega-sized store on one of Chennai’s busiest streets-one which is literally home to countless men, women, shops, and businesses.

Life on Ranganathan Street

If you have ever been to Chennai’s Ranganathan Street and shopped at the all famous Saravana Stores, you would understand exactly what I am talking about. Not only in Chennai, but cities across the state of Tamil Nadu are home to some mega-sized stores that sell practically everything under the sun. Apparels for all ages and gender, jewelry, household articles, home appliances, footwear, bed and bath products, cosmetics- just about anything you could dream of.

Way different from the plush retails in malls, these stores cater to all income clientele.

When I first visited one in Chennai, I was left speechless. Products piled one on top of another, with not an inch spared. The ceilings in the home section, hung steel utensils that shimmered in the light around. The 20,000 square feet store employed over a hundred odd staff. Dressed in neat uniforms, they stood at every junction, across counters, ready to help with a smile. Most of them seemed to be in the age bracket between of 20-30(some even younger). Their job involved being at the store from dawn to almost midnight, attending to varied customers and some of their tantrums, running odd errands for the store manager, counting stock, tallying cash and serving tea.

To me, they seemed to be running the show, in some way

As I sifted through the pile of saris, I struck conversation with the young sales girl in front me. She was twenty she said, and had left her village in Thirunelveli district (Naranammalpuram, a village with hardly 800 houses), as there weren’t colleges to pursue higher education, nor were there opportunities to earn an income. The store provided her accommodation and meals, which otherwise would be expensive on her pocket in a metro such as Chennai. With the income she earned, she was able to save a few rupees and also send money to her family back in the village. I asked her if she was happy this way. She just smiled and said, “This is my work, and there’s dignity in it”.

It was noon by then, and the wilting look on each of their faces spoke an untold story. Some seemed desperate to leave the store for the half an hour lunch break. There was a quick swap at the counter to ensure that I was attended to. I looked up to see another smiling boy in front of me. “You would look good in green. Shall I show you some more prints in that colour?” he politely asked me. I quickly made my choice from what lay in front of me, and proceeded to the billing counter.

Somewhere deep down, I had begun to empathize with these young girls and boys.

They were away from home and home sick, with long working hours, and having to stand all day. I made a mental note, that the next time I visited the store; I must look up from my shopping and give them a smile, acknowledging their presence. That’s the least I could do.

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Road From Delhi to Wagah-Attari Border

Road From Delhi to Wagah-Attari Border

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The Zero Mile

The Wagah Border gate may seem just like any other gate. Situated on NH1, it is partly built on the Grand Trunk Road which is one of the longest and oldest highways of India. The road extends up to Kabul in Afghanistan and still remains as a major trade route between both the countries. Interestingly, Wagah is a village in Pakistan, which shares the boundary with our border village Attari. The Wagah-Attari Border Gate is strategically the most important point on the Indo-Pak Radcliffe Line

An exodus mix of Patriotism

I took the road from Delhi to Attari( 32 kms from Amritsar), to witness the popular Show of Strength and Beating Retreat ceremony, conducted at the border every day at dusk. 

“This simple 45 minute exercise, along with the lowering of the Flag, may seem entertaining. Yet, it does manage to pull those strings of patriotism deep inside you.” 

The entire exercise is put together by the security forces of India’s Border Security Force and Pakistan Rangers. Started in 1959, by both the governments as a gesture of good will, the ceremony took an aggressive turn after a few years.

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Show of Strength amidst the crowds cheering

The soldiers try to outdo the other side by marching and performing drill in an exaggerated fashion, with impressively high leg kicks. Large crowds on either side of the gate clap and cheer, for their respective countries. As the sun sets, the iron gates at the border are opened and the two flags are lowered simultaneously. The flags are folded and the ceremony ends with a retreat that involves a brusque handshake between soldiers from either side, followed by the closing of the gates again.

Getting the most out of the Wagah-Border ceremony

As the rich hue of the setting sun spreads its wings, I waved back to the people on the other side. I loved the fact that they responded back with a similar gesture. I spotted a young lady with a beautiful baby, trying to click our pictures. For a moment, we stood staring into each other’s eyes, just a few meters away, with the border between us.

Participate in the ceremony. Yes you can, by cheering as loudly as possible. The BSF folks are out there for us. They represent us and need all the encouragement. I did, and it left me with goose bumps.

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The crowd- Do cheer along

Take a moment, and walk around (does require a bit more of permission). I noticed the lush green fields on the other side. There was an eerie calm, as the gentle breeze swayed the crops.  For a moment I just wished I could turn invisible and cross over.

“But well, we live in a mortal world, of bricks and mortar, and it comes with its share of restrictions.”

The Fields Across
The Fields Across

India and Pakistan both share a dark common history. Despite the mounting tensions it’s best to not cheer in a demeaning way. The other side is equally patriotic and I believe we must respect that.

Lastly, it’s best to reach before 4pm (unless you have a VIP pass, which I did).  Otherwise, you wouldn’t find a place to sit and watch the ceremony peacefully. Mobiles don’t work, due to the jammers around. So just sit back and enjoy the entire 45 minute exercise. It is well worth every bit of it!!!

The Other Side
The Other Side

Serein- The New Malabar Hill of Thane

Serein- The New Malabar Hill of Thane

Mumbai – the city that was formerly called Bombay is the financial and the entertainment capital of India. With a population of over 20 million, this city has the energy that no other city in the country has. There are activities and events happening at every place, making it truly a city worth living in. One such destination to experience the best of the city is the new “Malabar Hill of Thane”.

The Emerging Destination- Pokhran Road

Amidst the immaculate greenery giving you the much-required peace of mind is this destination of Pokhran Road 2. In recent times, Thane has surely emerged as a sought after residential destination for many. The reasons are aplenty. Thane not only offers great social and physical infrastructure but it also comes with many lifestyle residential options. Thanks to this growth in Thane, the adjoining areas too are seeing growth and development. And Pokhran Road both I and II, at the foot of Thane’s picturesque Yeoor hills, is seeing ample growth as a residential destination.

The Malabar Hill of Thane!!!

It is very similar to South Mumbai’s Malabar hills. Dotted with greenery, it has newly built high rises, complexes, malls and lifestyle stores making it the most happening place to live in. Neatly laid roads, Pokhran Road 2 is tucked into greenery, despite the madness of the city that surrounds it. In a way similar to Malabar hills of South Mumbai. Part of the city, yet away from the madness. No wonder it is known as the Malabar Hill of Thane. Oh well the two destinations have a similarity in their pincode too – Malabar hill – 400006 & Pokhran road, Thane – 400610

Due to the proximity to Yeoor hills and Upvan Lakes, Pokhran Road has a natural green environment. You would definitely have a pride in this address. Apart from this, the area has developed to provide residents with all facilities. There are several new malls being developed and facilities such as quality medical and education are close by. Most of these complexes have made adequate provisions for the safety and security of its occupants too. It is also located ten minutes from the railway station and easily reached via Ghodbunder Road and the Eastern Express Highway.

If you love greenery, nature, the view of the hills and the sound of chirping birds, get the similar feel of living in Malabar hills, from Mumbai’s very own Malabar Hill of Thane. Be a part of it and live amidst affluence.

Serein- The Wellness Home from Thane

Tata Housing has a housing project called Serein, located on Pokhran Road 2. It is a first of its kind project with “Wellness” as a theme, and outdoor living spaces designed exclusively for users to immerse themselves in nature’s elements. They are homes that make a legacy. Amidst lush greenery, it is located in the Malabar Hill of Thane.

The landscape has been designed as if it’s a celebration of shapes and colors. It is punctuated with various activity spaces for different people. The apartments have been placed such that they have abundant sunlight and natural ventilation. Each apartment is equipped with unique features to improve the overall living standards of the inhabitants.

Setting it apart- Specifications of the Home

The apartments are designed to maximize north western winds to cools the indoor spaces. Air purifiers in the living rooms are to optimize respiratory health. High performance glass in windows has been provided to reduce external noise entering the home, thereby creating, and ultra-quiet interior sound levels. Bathrooms are fitted with vitamin C infused shower to refresh skin, hair and nails. Use of low VOC material to reduce adverse health impacts for building occupants.

The Home and You

A home influences your life the most. From keeping you positive mentally, it also is a place to keep you physically active. In short it influences your well-being. This is why it is advisable to make a wise choice when choosing one. Serein has paid close attention to every such detail keeping in mind its occupants well-being. The homes have been made with great care to enhance one’s senses every day.

Clash of the Titans: The Mother-in-Law & Daughter-in-law

Clash of the Titans: The Mother-in-Law & Daughter-in-law

Pbar_ww_badegeut a group of young women in a room, and you are bound to have at least seventy percent of them rant about their mother-in-laws. From time immemorial this relationship has been the butt of all jokes. Scores of forums across the internet are flooded on a daily basis, with questions pertaining to tackling the Mother-in-law. Often conflicts turn bitter, and may well become the reason for many a marriage to crumble down.

The Modern Day Mother In-law & Daughter-in-law

The modern-day Mother-in- law, is far more educated than what her own Mother-in-law was. From the personification of pure dominance, today, she is a more sensitive individual. She is more suited to treat her daughter-in-law with respect as she has learnt that to get respect, one must give respect. The Daughter-in-law of today is independent and is well aware of her rights. She believes in equality and thrives on mutual respect. She is receptive and is open to expressing not only her feelings, but her views too.

“Yet, despite these changes, there seems to be no end to the conflicts between a Mother-in-law and Daughter-in-law.”

The Clash of the Titans

I consider myself lucky, to belong to the small percentage of women, for whom, the Mother-in-law factor isn’t really a big issue. Of course, we have had our share of differences too. But over the years, we have managed to settle down these differences amicably.

You’re the daughter she never had, is what it all begins with. And well, you do assume that this purely means she’s going to be supportive of all your choices, staying out of your life and marriage, just being there at the time, when you ask her for help. Looks perfect, isn’t it!! On the other hand, the Mom-in-law has her own little picture of what the Daughter-in-law must encompass. She knows you are crazy about her son. But she also assumes that you see her as an authority on her son. She assumes, you would seek advice from her, and the end result, she can’t wait to start helping…

What ensues is the clash of the Titans, and the reason why women begin to discuss how strained or infuriating their relationship with their Mother-in law has become.

Tracing the Problem

The problems can be traced back to the unspoken yet conflicting expectations and assumptions. For the Daughter-in-law, no matter how modern is the Mother-in-law, she is constantly judged on the standards of a traditional housewife– which is her ability to cook, maintain a home clean, and raise children. On the other hand, for the Mother-in-Law, her decade old pattern of decision-making is suddenly under threat, as the daughter-in-law now likes to do it all her way.

There is, thus, an underlying disappointment felt by both women, giving rise to a distinctive negativity. Add to this, a mother’s possessiveness over her son and a wife’s difficulty as she balances work and home responsibilities. You have the perfect formula for years of trouble. These tensions do more than cause friction within families. They can put even the best marriages at risk.

The Solutions Lies Within Both

As long as there is no abuse, there surely is a solution in tackling this age-old problem. By abuse I mean, dowry harassment, physical, mental and verbal abuse, irrespective of who inflicts it on whom. When such issues arise, there should surely be no compromise and it is not to be tolerated.

“Love begets love; let it once begin and none can tell its end.”

For the mother-in-law, who may feel her domain threatened, must accept that the son is now the object of  his wife’s affection too. Don’t pin down expectations. The mantra is to forgive and forget without any animosity against your son’s bride.

For the daughter-in-law, remember she comes with years of experience. Do not take offense at the smallest of things. Give a relationship time. If your mother-in-law expresses a view that differs from yours, you don’t have to accept it in entirety. Show respect for her experience and at the same time, make it clear that you want to do things your own way.

What surely worked for me is the assurance I gave my mother-in-law that she would continue to be respected, and be an integral part of the family. It made her respect our boundaries, which she seldom crossed over.

For the man of the house, you may feel like as though you are between a rock and a hard place, with a possessive mom on one side and a sensitive wife on the other. But remember you are the link between the two. Either you ease out the tension with your calm and collected way or, simply allow the tension to mount by being a silent spectator.

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