Radio, I Still Love You!

Not sure if it is due to the holiday season that’s kicking in or, the last showers of the monsoon that’s been trickling down my roof, but I seemed to be overwhelmed with nostalgia since morning. With nothing much to do in the small cantonment town that I live in, I discovered the joys that lay hidden in a simple hand held device. No, it isn’t the mobile phone that I am talking about, but a small black radio it is. Way back in the eighties, most households possessed a television box. Oh well! It sure could be called one,

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The Paradox of Choice

“The Paradox of Choice”- I may have borrowed the title of this post from the 2004 book by American psychologist Barry Schwartz, where Schwartz argues that eliminating consumer choices can reduce the anxieties of shoppers. To me, this seems so true. With the plethora of choices available today, isn’t it actually getting to be exhausting for us, the consumers? Journey to the center of the paradox My mobile device had been giving me considerable trouble, hence I decided that it indeed was time to scrap it and get myself a new one. So an entire Sunday afternoon was spent surfing

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Filter Coffee and Butter Toast!

A buttered toast and a cup of piping hot filter coffee is all that I require to kick start my day. Having grown up in a typical Tambrahm home, I am habituated to this cuppa coffee every morning. The frothy mixture of hot milk, coffee decoction, and sugar, may seem pretty simple to make. But trust me, when you actually get down to making it, you realize there’s much more to it. We South Indians do fuss about our filter coffee, and could go to great lengths to ensure that the first cup of coffee in the morning is near perfection.

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What Are Your Bollywood Memories of the Nineties?

I live in a small town on the Konkan coast of India. The advantage of living in such small places is that you bump into interesting things that were once part of a glorious past. This morning I spent around half an hour at a tiny little photo studio, getting a couple of passport prints developed. As I sat waiting on the stiff wooden stool for the whole transaction to be completed, I got a chance to listen to Bollywood songs that once topped the charts way back in the nineties. Despite the cacophony of the traffic on the street outside,

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The Ugly truth That Lurks Within

The news about the tragic death of Manjula Davek was doing the rounds on social media. All of 28 years, the young PhD student had been found hanging in her hostel room in IIT Delhi. It quite was disturbing to read about it. Here was a girl on the verge of completing her research from the country’s premier institute, having published papers in international journals. A girl of high intellect had been pushed to the extreme step of taking her own life. The police are clueless on the reason, as there wasn’t a suicide note left behind. However, her family

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Its a Taboo!! #AtoZChallenge

Marriage is all about togetherness. It is about two different individuals coming together, of experiences, of the joys of starting a family, of tears and happiness. And fights too… Yet, when the basis of marriage- companionship and happiness- is threatened, I wonder why the option of divorce is scorned upon in society and considered a taboo. Statistically, divorce rates in India are far lower than what it is in western counties. Of course there has been a general rise in the trend, but this is restricted to urban-metro cities. When we look at the teeny-weeny villages, tier 2 towns and

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Shades of Me! #AtoZChallenge

I am a woman. Yes you can definitely say that by my gait and shadow. You also know that by the roles I adorn. I am a mother, a wife, a friend, a daughter and a sister. But is this all that defines me? No, I am all this and much more…So what makes me who I am? Two shades I care about the most… I am passionate about expressing myself through words. Words that could be woven to communicate and, those that inspire others and probably give them a hope in gloomy days. I love the beautiful relationships that make

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Pictures Online? Exercise Caution #AtoZChallenge

More than a year back, child rights activists in Chennai came across and demanded to shut down two Facebook pages that were in Tamil. The pages were created to attract pedophiles with photographs of young girls with comments full of sexual connotation. Social media giant Facebook has a policy that does not allow nude pictures, but these pages used pictures of children in full clothes. There was nothing sleazy or objectionable about the images – the photos were the kind you and I would post of our children. So technically it doesn’t fall under the obscenity category and hence the

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Not a Moment to Spare #AtoZChallenge

Not a moment to spare. We humans lead one of the busiest lives. This is true, despite the fact that things are easily available these days. Your photographs are instant, and are there in front of you immediately after you click them. You could order a meal with a swipe and click on your smart phone. Your bank is at your doorstep, and you could also book movie tickets in a jiffy, without having to stand in long queues. Everything is available at a swish, swash or click of your fingers. Yet, if there’s one thing we all don’t have with

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Killer is Out There- The Story of Aruna Shanbaug

Heard of Aruna Shanbaug? The case Twenty five year old Aruna Shanbaug was sexually assaulted on the night of 27 November 1973, by Sohanlal Walmiki, a sweeper at the King Edward Memorial (KEM) Hospital, in Mumbai. Sohanlal attacked her while she was changing clothes in the hospital basement. He choked her with a dog chain and sodomized her. The asphyxiation cut off oxygen supply to her brain, resulting in brain stem contusion injury and cervical cord injury apart from leaving her cortically blind. Unable to speak or walk or have control over body movements, Aruna Shanbaug entered a permanent vegetative state. She remained in this state

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Insecurities- We all Have them #AtoZChallenge

“Insecurity is your intuition telling you that something’s not right… either with them or with you.” Charles J Orlando So let’s face it. We all have insecurities, a bunch of them, at some point in life. We humans do get insecure about relationships, love, success or people. Of course how each one of us may choose to handle it greatly depend on the mental strength we have. But there is no denying insecurity does creep into each one of us. Here I am in a very unique stage of my life.  A happy one I would like to call it,

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Home is Where the Heart is #AtoZChallenge

Home is where the heart is! Surely you must have heard this famous proverb. And that makes me wonder, where exactly is my heart? Is it in the home where I grew up and lived 25 years of my life, the place where I played and spent those blissful childhood days? Or is it in the home I live in now? Years back…. My childhood days in the eighties and nineties were spent in a palatial bungalow in Bangalore. Life was far simpler then and Bangalore was an entirely different city too. Sans traffic, noise and pollution, the city would

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Friendships do Break! #AtoZChallenge

“A broken friendship can be a comma or a full stop. You choose.”–  Source: Somewhere from the World Wide Web Ever lost a friend, the kind with whom you could share anything under the sun? You could be your raw self and do the craziest things with them, yet have no fears of being judged. I had one some years back. A friendship I was proud of. A friendship I thought would last a lifetime. A relationship I never thought would cease. I ain’t an authority on friendship. For that matter, on any other relationship either. Yet, the course of my

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Of Excesses and Being Economical #AtoZChallenge

“Economical”- the dictionary explains this word as being efficient and prudent in the use of resources. Surely, the essence of this word may not make much sense to many in today’s generation. We are what you would call a generation of excesses.  We buy more, thanks to the influx of online shopping portals and far too many brands and stores. We trash more, very often without blinking an eyelid. No wonder our closets are almost full to the brim, with clothes that we might not even wear. Not to forget the overflowing garbage bins in our cities that are loaded

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Comparisons- We all do it, don’t we? #AtoZChallenge

“Enjoy your own life without comparing it with that of another.” – Marquis de Condorcet We do it all the time. Comparing is second nature to almost each one of us. This particular human quality of making comparisons is omnipresent in our lives. And in today’s digital era, we have taken to relentlessly compare on social media too. From our looks, clothes, to what we own and our status, it is almost always that we need more. Our life never seems complete Almost every day we seek something more. From a bigger house, a better car, a child that aces all

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Recognising Transgender- An Inspirational Video #WATWB

The Supreme Court of India handed down a landmark ruling in 2014, to recognize and integrate the third gender as part of mainstream society. Of course, this decision is a big step towards giving Transgender a right to self-identity, who are otherwise stigmatized by society. Yet, we still have a long way to go in restoring their dignity and providing them with the most basic fundamental right- of education and employment. As I scrolled through my Facebook feed this morning this brilliantly made video popped up on my feed. This groundbreaking video made by the brand Vicks is inspired by

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Medical Store Embarrassment?

Noticed how buying condoms is often a nerve racking and uncomfortable experience for many? It does seem quite surprising, considering the fact that, it is the step forward towards being responsible and practicing safer sex.  But then, how could I forget, we belong to a country where sexuality is always behind closed doors, and one seldom displays the minutest possibility of having any inclination. No wonder, people mumble, fumble and whisper, to buy that pack of condoms. The medical store drama I was at a medical store recently, and as I stood waiting to be attended to, my eyes caught

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Jaago Re- It is Time to Pre-act not React with Tata Tea

As I sat casually switching channels, sipping warm tea on a lazy Saturday afternoon,  the television flashed one of the most compelling and hard-hitting advertisements of recent times. Tata Tea is back again with its trademark “Jaago Re” campaign. And this time around the brand has brought into forefront what is essentially known as pre-activism, urging consumers to pre-act and not react to prevent social crises. Pre-Activism- Isn’t it the need of the day? If this term had to be laid out in a simple form, it is nothing but a sort of awakening, to learn and finally find an

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The Regressive Hindi Soap Operas!

Having nothing to do on a lazy Friday evening, I scanned through the proliferation of channels on television that have come our way in modern times. My remote failed to rest on anything interesting, until I stumbled upon the baap of all shows- a mega 1000 episode Hindi soap on prime time television. The show made me sit up and notice- the sanskari bahu with the pallu neatly pinned, the sasuma with streaks of white hair, the vamp with her gaudy fashion sense, lavish sets, close ups of the cast, well way too close, and of course an overdose of

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Turn That Rule Book Over Women!

The numbers sure are intimidating. The corporate world has continually shown that there is a wide gap with regards to women in leadership. This, despite studies quoting that, breaking down gender barriers and including women in top leadership roles, are not merely altruistic for the company, but are also beneficial to society and the nation. What the rule book says? Through my early years, I have been hard-wired into believing that taking care of home is a girl’s first priority. I was never encouraged to have a strong ambition (though I do consider myself lucky that my parents ensured I

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