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The Road is My Therapist!

found the road by mistake. I decided to go out for a brief drive on Sunday morning and suddenly found myself itching for some more alone time, driving on NH-66. I had intended to explore a spice garden I had heard good things about.

Terrain less explored

I sure am lucky to be living in a small town on the Konkan coast of India. A terrain less explored, the district of Uttar Karnataka is lush green, with hills and valleys on one side and the lashing waves of the Arabian Sea on the other. I live inside a beautiful Cantonment, with neatly laid out roads and scenic beauty, which opens out in front of my eyes every single day. I am spoiled indeed now and, can never really settle down in a crowded metro again.

So I drove…and drove, down the national highway, onto rural routes that twisted and bent through forests of Karnataka- for no other reason than that I had an urge to go on. I was on my own, wrapped in solitude, lost in thought, when I missed that crucial turn, finding myself at the head of a blocked-off road. A “kachcha rasta” lay ahead, and beyond it lay a blue stretch of sea, winding and unblemished. I sat still for a few minutes wondering if I must go ahead and just take one little peak of the sea. As I accelerated, the car growled through the muddy road at every arc, and the sun cast a high-speed flicker of shadows from behind the bare trees. It was fun, exhilarating and when I hit the end of the road, the feeling that I got was truly a new high. I wasn’t ready for the adventure to be over.

This is the marvelous thing about driving. You could head off to anyplace, find a diversion and explore.

I seek neither a private racetrack nor a plush vehicle

Yet I am drawn to the road. Many a times a simple cycle does the magic. Whether it is a quick lap around the neighborhood, or out onto the highway away from the maddening crowds, it untangles my mind. A spontaneous hour long trip to “no-where’s land” could get me contemplating over life’s great mysteries.

My car has become my therapist. I play a good playlist and hum away the blues. I just don’t feel like stopping the vehicle until I feel better. I drive, I think, I imagine….What attracts me the most, is being alone in the car and going places, seldom planned for. My drive on NH 66 was hardly the Arabian coast highway. Yet, I found it exciting and invigorating.

A drive is often my meaningful short escape. What’s yours?

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  • inquisitivegeet

    Driving on a highway? You’re really a brave woman! And this post lures me to go to the lush green surroundings! I’m so tempted with your descriptions!


  • oldendaysk

    I love your descriptions, so inspiring. I too love the road, I love a solitary drive to reflect and I love a solitary road to turn the music up loud and sing like it’s my job! Walking on the beach is also one of my favorite therapy sessions and I am fortunate enough to live down the street from the Atlantic Ocean. Great Piece!

  • d3athlily

    We all need our escapes. Driving is not mine because there’s no such thing as a clear road near me. I do love the idea of driving to the end of a road, to see the ocean ahead of you and feel that sense of fulfillment in seeing it to its end though!

  • JingleJangle

    Yes! This is so much me. I also love long drives and when I moved to Europe, I discovered the same happiness in cycling. There isn’t a problem that can’t be solved, or at least alleviated, on the road. 🙂

  • Nancy K.

    I’ve always thought this was a distinctly American thing — it gives me comfort to know that all around the world we take to the road to work through the thoughts. Whatever they may be. I’m also always thankful to be reminded of my ethnocentricity. Gotta keep that nonsense in check!

    Like you I am a lover of rambling drives, especially living in rural Vermont. We have national forest roads you can drive for hours without seeing anyone else and come across magnificent views and places that are perfect for pictures, thinking, meditating. Going from the music of the car to the noise of nature is one of my favorite ways to get things flowing.

    My escape these days (I left a job that had me driving over 100 miles a day so I’m still reticent to get in the car unless absolutely needed… and it’s been nearly two years since I left!) is walking and cycling. Guess I’ve always been called to the road!

  • 2travellingsisters

    Loved reading this post and we have to agree with you sometimes just driving down the road without knowing the destination can be so relieving and explore the thoughts that runs in our mind in pure solitude!

  • Shilpa Gupte

    Ah, how I was imagining how much you must have enjoyed the ride, Ramya! How I wish I could (and would) drive…I would do the same thing you do…drive alone, with the music list of my choice and the road that took me to places I had never visited! Loveddddd it! 🙂

  • Eli Ert

    I love long drives too – and the best ones are the not-planned ones – and you suddenly end up somewhere new to explore. Otherwise I love kajakking and hiking – to get out there in nature… and explore – greatest feeling there is:-)

  • Doc Roshan R (@pythoroshan)

    I was kind of lucky like you in this regard. When I finally got my first car and began my forays out, it was in a relatively mundane city with not much life and plenty of places to explore. Not only did i sharpen my driving skills but I found actualy enjoyed these journeys by myself… slowly evolved to become the driver for friends as we went across state borders just to have ice cream or watch a movie and return after midnight.

    Honestly, I dont think I could survive in a metro traffic AT ALL.

    • Ramya Abhinand

      True Roshan, driving in a metro is just a pain in the nech most of the times. you hardly get to enjoy it. Its only out on the ihighway, as you have said, you enjoy it and also improve your driving skills.

  • Soumya Prasad

    I’ve learnt driving but I’m yet to get fluent in it. I’ve been practicing, but I don’t think it will be peaceful for me. Because I hate cars! I dread having to take a ride in one anyday. I feel so claustrophobic and cooped up in the air and the weird smells around give me a migraine!

    My therapist is some me time with a cup of green tea and a book.

    • Ramya Abhinand

      Thats nice Sowmya, nothing like a quiet time sipping tea and indulging in a good book. I love diriving only if it is on open roads .. hate city driving

  • Shilpa Garg

    They say driving is a great way to de-stress. I dont drive but my husband and brother in law are crazy about going for long drives amidst nature and on smooth highways.
    My therapy is my corner of the bed with Kindle or a book.

  • Parul Thakur

    That sounds like something that makes you so happy and rejenuvated. Well, what can I say? I’m scared of driving. Learnt and could not get the car out. So..
    For me, my alone time at home works like magic 🙂

    • Ramya Abhinand

      Oh PArul I can understand. I had similar fears intially. But somehow driving in Delhi a few years back, taught me how to get control of the steering. And now its a pleasure.

  • Uma

    Oh, wow. This sounds so perfect and lovely. Empty roads with a scenic view around make for perfect drives. But I’m not sure if I’d take off alone and feel adventurous to explore. I love long drives only when I’m not driving and I can take in the views from the passenger seat 😉

    • Ramya Abhinand

      Ofcourse Uma the passenger seat too is a pleasure. But being in control of the vehicle on your own , being solo is a challenge as well as exciting , all together.

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