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Hope is All that I Have #AtoZChallenge

Hope is being able to see that there is light despite all of the darkness”- Desmond Tutu.

Before I started out on the #AtoZChallenge, at the time I was choosing an appropriate theme, I decided I will write positive things about India. A country that is so incredible must be spoken about and, a few of its unknown facets must be shared with the world. We are one of those countries rich in culture, heritage, regions and people and I feel good to blog about it.

But for the past two days, I have been immensely disturbed by a little newspaper report. This news snippet left me with a sullen feeling. As I sat staring at the newspaper this morning, the greatness and marvel of the country seemed to lose its sheen in front of my eyes. And I realized, behind the veil of our culture, hides this one big venomous snake that just doesn’t seem to be getting out of our society. Yet again, his fangs have snuffed out another young girl’s life.

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On Wednesday afternoon, 27 year old Himanshi Kashyap was found dead with a single bullet shot on her head, in the bathroom of her Ghaziabad residence. She was the daughter a former minister in Uttar Pradesh. Himanshi’s father has alleged that her husband’s family constantly abused her over their demands for a car and Rs. 50 lakh cash in dowry. Himanshi, a post-graduate was married to Sagar, who is pursuing his higher studies in medicine, three years ago. The couple has a son aged one-and-a-half years. With prima facie evidence indicating abuse and violence (Himanshi had burn marks on her neck and bluish-black marks over her eye); the police and their team are yet to file a charge sheet.

It just makes me wonder. Despite all the advancements we seem to be making in almost every field, why is it that we are yet to eradicate dowry from our country? How many more Hiamanshi’s would lose their lives, before we wake up as a large and embrace a positive change?

Hope and hope is all that I have.

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  • Vinay Nagaraju

    It is so disappointing to hear such news, it makes me wonder if this is the case in the higher echelons of the society, what about the lower strata and fragments where education and information is little.

  • inquisitivegeet

    It really is sad to hear this and instances like these are plenty. They’ve become just another news for everyone in the country. What society needs to understand is that power should be given to women as well, that it is not just their responsibility to work on marriage, or once married stay in the house, if she feels danger she is free to walk away and will be warmly welcomed by her parents then.
    Then comes laws, they need to be more strict. Stricter than they are,along with women, I guess then a change should be visible!
    Thanks for writing this one Ramya 🙂


  • Anonymous

    Yes its indeed disturbing to here such news day in and out. Tagging such cases under dowry death will only diminish the gravity of crime. This is nothing but cold blooded murder or homicide and should be delt accordingly.

  • Parul Thakur

    Oh I haven’t heard of that news and you are right, it’s disturbing. But let me put some things right here. Do we give our sons and daughters the freedom to marry per their choice? No. We set up for them and then there are greedy people who see a gold egg laying minister’s daughter. Do we tell our daughters that they are free to walk out of marriage on the slightest hint of abuse? No. We tell them to stay put and things will settle down. Do we start a marriage alliance saying we will not give or take dowry? No. We splurge and give so much that we indicate that we have enough and much more. It’s a cycle if you can see. I also lost a cousin but I know she had the choice to walk out but she did not. So the issue is very close to my heart. Thank you for writing about it.

  • i b arora

    how many of us are willing to change? one person dies on roads every in four minutes but how many of us are willing to follow traffic rules. in delhi my guess is that not even 10% drive within speed limit, that’s true of all aspects of our lives

  • Sue Ranscht

    Tradition is difficult to overcome in any culture. Usually the roots of tradition come from some real need, and as time passes, the roots grow deeper even if the need changes or vanishes altogether. That’s when people follow tradition just because it’s old and we want to believe old things should be honored. I am sorry for the injury and death that come to women in India who can’t escape a tradition that has outgrown its usefulness. As long as it benefits certain people, they will fight to keep it. Everyone else must band together to end it.

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