• Gender Parity,  Popcorn Zone

    Male Contraceptive – Shouldn’t Men Shoulder The Responsibility For Contraception Too?

    “Phir se?” I gasped as my domestic help announced the news of her pregnancy. She did look weak and tired. Three pregnancies and two abortions had practically reduced her to a mere frame. Savitha has been a part of my household for over five years now and over these years, from being the typical memsaab; I had become an elder sister of sorts to her, and she would often seek guidance. “Savitha,…

  • Gender Parity,  Popcorn Zone

    #InfertilityNotATaboo- When it is Only About Her Womb

    She bears the brunt of infertility……almost always! A test in every way! It was a hot afternoon in the month of April when I reached Poonam’s house in Raja Ka Tal- a small farming village in district Firozabad. The warm breeze gently swayed the trees, as their yellow leaves collected by her feet. Her body lay on the ground, a thin sheet covering from head to toe. It had thinned down…

  • Gender Parity,  Popcorn Zone

    Why Do Women Have to Cook?

    “She caught me red handed! I had cut open the packet of instant sambar mix and was about to add a couple of spoons in water, when I noticed my mother-in-law peering from behind me. “You know how to make Sambar don’t you?” she asked. My sheepish grin gave it all away. I am a married woman and…. I don’t like to cook!!! Well before you give me those judgmental…

  • Gender Parity,  Popcorn Zone

    Must You Only Empower Yourself?

    “Why do you want to write about me Didi? I work as a domestic maid and barely make ends meet,” said Poonam. I replied, “It is not often that you meet a person with guts to stand up for themselves and, also for others in a similar predicament.” The creases on her forehead leveled out as she picked up the hot cup of chai. “I miss my home in Firozabad.…

  • Gender Parity,  Popcorn Zone

    The Great Indian Damaad

    If there is one person in this huge wild world who enjoys utmost royalty, it is the Great Indian “Damaad” (Son-in-law). So revered and honored is he that often a girl’s parents could go to any extent to keep him happy. It is like as though the Good Lord himself has entered their family and wed their daughter. Saroj, my laundry lady, seemed unusually anxious.  “Didi paanch hazaar rupaye chahiye”…

  • Gender Parity,  Parenting

    Should I advice my daughter that there isn’t any difference in being a boy or girl?

    Sheela raised this question as we both scuttled for a seat in the crowded Delhi Metro. The one hour commute between Rajiv Chowk and Huda City Centre gave us enough time to share tidbits of our daily lives. “Of course you should”, I said. “Girls are leaving a mark in every field these days. Opportunities are aplenty and there should be no restrictions on the basis of gender”. “I thought…

  • Gender Parity,  Popcorn Zone

    Devadasi- Married to the lord

    “Rayaru bandaru Maavana manege Ratri Aagithu, Hunnime haraside banina naduve chandira bandittu” -(When the groom reached his father-in-laws house it was late at night. In the moonlit night, the moon rode high) We sat on the straw mat listening to this old Kannada melody. The light of the full moon enveloped the entire sky, and I could see its radiance reflect on Sarayu’s face. I had met her just that…