Turn That Rule Book Over Women!

Tbar_ww_badegehe numbers sure are intimidating. The corporate world has continually shown that there is a wide gap with regards to women in leadership. This, despite studies quoting that, breaking down gender barriers and including women in top leadership roles, are not merely altruistic for the company, but are also beneficial to society and the nation.

What the rule book says?

Through my early years, I have been hard-wired into believing that taking care of home is a girl’s first priority. I was never encouraged to have a strong ambition (though I do consider myself lucky that my parents ensured I received quality education). Nor was I pushed into playing rough and tumble sports. Yet at 20, I was better than most boys in my class, topping every subject in my stream. I was financially independent at the age of 25, and was ambitious to make it big in the corporate world.

Are societal conditions favorable?

But marriage and motherhood happened and what I did aspire to be, slowly took a back seat. This is probably the story of most young girls. There is no denying that societal conditions are not always favorable for women. There is an element of pressure to get married and start a family, giving just a small window of opportunity to establish oneself. She is loaded with domestic responsibilities, entrenched in patriarchy thus pushing career advancements to the back seat. Surely, embracing leadership roles becomes far-fetched. The ones, who do continue to dream big, often need to put up a tough fight, against the stereotypes cast upon them by society and, the guilt that results thereon- on neglecting the home front and the kids.

Must a woman aspire just marriage than being overly ambitious?

We seem to have a double sided issue at hand here. Where on one side, society’s rule book pins down the woman to the home front, on the other side, women themselves seem to be letting their aspirations be crushed by the stereotypes. What a women aspires is purely her choice. Thus, it is important for one to speak up and be resilient, moving past fears and embracing confidence. This is the first step to take in embodying the traits of a leader, and also the first step towards breaking down gender barriers.

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  1. Yes, I fully agree with you, Ramya. It’s time for women to take a stand, make decisions independently so that they get to live the life they have envisioned!
    That was a great post…as always! <3

  2. It’s not easy for women to navigate careers, marriage and motherhood. So true about all the pressures and the stereotypes making it even harder to have a career. And our own self imposed guilt doesn’t help. Good one!

  3. Rightly said, Ramya. As women, we do need to have our priorities right early in life because we still define marriage and motherhood as milestones that have a narrow time frame. Kudos to people who are able to strike a fine balance. Like you, I wasn’t encouraged to rise high in my career, not that I was discouraged. Probably I lacked the ambition myself but I also don’t remember having it fanned. Marrying me off to a good guy was seen as the happy ending to a parenthood by my parents. Indeed, the change can only come if the right attitude is ingrained early on.

  4. Totally agree with you. Been there, done that. The women of today face a tremendous channel of changing the way the society works.We have to do our bit, be it writing a post, reading one, discussing it with our family, children – girls and boys both, and being assertive for our own rights, Most importantly, women need to identify what makes them happy, and pursue it. Be it motherhood or being a CEO.

  5. The topic that you have touched on has been a topic for heated discussion for a long time. Yet, we haven’t been able to come to a reasonable conclusion yet, showing the apathy on the situation. I would urge women to follow their dreams and to listen to their hearts. If they want oto be a home-maker, they should, but the decision better not be thrusted upon them.

  6. I think rather than be forced this should be more of a choice to women,my parents never told me to get married or have kids but by virtue i am a very homely girl so rather than going to onsite i chose to get married and settle down in india, isntead of taking a promotion i decided to leave my job and take care of my child. these decisions were not forced but my own choice. i think it should be a choice rather than a force.

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