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May Memories & Mayhem- Summer lessons

I am not the summer kind of person. Wait! Before you get me all wrong, let me just make it clearer. I am not the summer heat person. Having spent my growing up years in Bangalore, I am used to summer temperatures not more than 35 degrees centigrade. Before one could even rant about the rising heat, the first showers of summer would lash down and Bangalore would be enveloped in a pleasant chill. There would be freshness to everything, right in the middle of May. But well those were the days!

It was only when marriage happened in my life that I came face to face with the actual reality of Indian summers. And being a part of the Armed Forces fraternity, the transfers ensured I saw it all. The harsh dry heat waves of the North, to the humid heat of West Bengal, Mumbai and Kochi, oh well; they sure make me miss the summer months of Bangalore.

Summer heat means heat rashes!

With schools closing for vacations, the kids were on an all-together high energy level. The heat just didn’t seem to bother them, as they spent the first few weeks cycling around the cantonment and binge on ice cream cones. Much as I was glad to see them enjoy their childhood within safe environs, I was concerned about the afternoon sun glaring back at them. But luckily the heat didn’t get to them. Surprisingly, despite all the protection and staying indoors at most times, it was I who bore the brunt of the sweltering heat. My body broke into a severe heat rash.

Moral of the story: The risk of rashes is always there in summer. But it shouldn’t stop you from stepping out and creating memories with your children. So just indulge in that big chocolate cone, not to forget to keep your stock of prickly heat powder ready at hand.

The journey is more important than the destination

Kids are often more excited about the journey than about reaching their destination, especially if it is done by train. The 15 hour long journey from home to their grandparent’s city was done by train. The kids loaded their backpacks with little games, colours and books. However, they hardly touched any of these on the train and preferred to climb up and down their respective berths. Their excitement could seldom be contained, and their squeals of delight spoke volumes. I was glad that the simple joys of travelling by train still seemed to exist amongst kids, even in this era of gadgets. As the train chugged into the last station, I sensed an element of disappointment on the little ones’ faces.

Moral of the story: The journey is always more important than the destination and this applies to every aspect of life.

Just let them be

For over six months, I had been trying to get my younger one to overcome her inhibitions of putting her head into water and begin swimming. Despite multiple tries she would refuse to put her head into water. Each time I would force her to do it; she would bounce back up with a fit of cough, taking in a whole lot of water. Being the over anxious mom, a little concern crossed my mind if she would ever learn to swim.

Our place of stay this vacation came with beautiful pool with a relatively shallow side for kids. I decided to sit back with a book and let the kids’ splash about on their own, instead of being in the pool with them. Not sure if it was me not being in the pool, or if it was the excitement of the new place; the younger one all of a sudden bobbed her head into water on her own. I ran to her in concern, to find her going down on her own without any fear, holding her breath for a good 10 seconds.

Moral of the story: Over parenting may be hazardous; it is best to let them be on their own at times. What they manage to learn on their own would take you by surprise!

I did crib a lot during the course of the month about the heat. But with May teaching me these valuable lessons, I learnt to stop looking at the heat as a deterrent to the fun the vacation was giving me. Of course I was armed with my prickly heat powder, but somewhere deep down I had begun to accept the fact that we belong to a country which has its share of harsh summers. Nothing can be done about it. I might as well spend my energy creating warm memories for the kids.

What did you do this May? Struggled in the sweltering heat? Or managed to overcome it? 

Linking with April 2018 Gratitude Circle bloghop at Vidya Sury, Collecting Smiles

 

33 Comments

  • Anagha Yatin

    No studies for kids but lessons for Mom to learn!
    You definitely had a great holiday Ramya!
    The small, itsy bitsy joys of life fetch ever lasting happiness. We enjoy them as they happen and re-live them in memories. Summer always is bright, isnt it? So let it be hot, we can manage…

  • Rachna

    You know, Ramya, I know exactly what you mean about summers. I have your situation in reverse. I am in Bangalore since the past 14 years. And now I just can’t go anywhere in summer. I spent my childhood in UP and Mumbai with dad being in a transferable job. 😊 Good lessons you learnt there. My kids being relatively grown up, summer holidays are more sedate affairs. Also with an the work, I can barely take offs to have a leisurely holiday.

  • Shailaja V

    I am so glad you let go and let the child get over the fear on her own regarding swimming. Always the best way. Come to think of it, the best way for anything, really.

    Sorry to hear about the heat rash! Hope it’s much better now. Take good care of yourself. Agree completely about Bangalore. This, from a girl who grew up in Chennai so I know what you mean about the heat!

    • Ramya Abhinand

      Yes Shailaja, we need to learn to let go. With regards to the heat, yes Chennai is an all together different weather .Bangalore is sheer bliss😁.

  • Dr.Amrita Basu

    Born in West Bengal .Have seen the heat of North India I hate the sticky hot summer heat too.
    But as you rightly said when I watch my daughter enjoying herself in a pool the only thing I do is jump in.
    Lovely lovely post.

    • Ramya Abhinand

      Trust me Amrita, leave them on their own and they learn far better…I guess that’s the way their brains are wired.

  • Parul Thakur

    I ma exactly like you. First 24 years of life were in the North and i hated the summer heat. I would get fever and rashes. Some how managed because what choice did I have then I moved to Bangalore. Since then, I stopped cribbing about the heat 😉
    I don’t intend to leave Bangalore unless we head out of India 😉 You are right about the fact that we need to face what we get. Good one on your little girl being able to hold her head in the water now. We all learn when our time comes.
    Wishing you a happy June and cool showers.

  • Suzy

    When we were young, the weather never bothered us – heat, rain, cold – we just found a way to enjoy. But as adults we always have something to complain about. Enjoyed your post.

  • Balaka

    This is such a beautiful post and so full of lessons. Even my son loves a train ride and keeps jumping from one berth to the other. As you said it is not about the destination but the journey is more important.

  • hithaishy

    Oops .. sent the previous reply incomplete…
    Staying present and not indulge in anxious thoughts . 9 days in the Himalayas without phone or any means to get in touch with family , just enjoying new company, human and otherwise . Nature teaches us resilience.
    Cheers

    • Ramya Abhinand

      WElcome to my humble abode Hithi….. And thanks for this first comment of yours.. So glad to know you did that 9 day trip to himalayas. Get away girl and dont feel guilty.. We se deserve to break free once in a way. And trust me family learns to be without us :))

  • mammaspeaks

    Summer heat is unbearable, agreed! But, summers have always been associated with school holidays and visiting family or travel. So all in all, it is a month of creating warm and happy memories. Glad you and your kids could create some happy memories too!

  • Rajlakshmi

    I used to get rashes all over my back and forehead. We used a lot of Dermi cool and nycil, but never stopped playing in the summer. Your kids are going to remember all these days fondly once they grow up. Even in the summer heat, you are being a super cool mom 😀

  • Karima

    “Over parenting may be hazardous; it is best to let them be on their own at times. What they manage to learn on their own would take you by surprise!”

    This is literally what I tell people on a weekly basis. Nice post.

  • Aditi Kaushiva

    I hear you! Summer time and my allergies! But lovely lessons on the way.
    Enjoyed this post! So glad the younger one found her own way to get over her fears and jump in the pool!

  • thevintagegypsygirl

    You know I believe that half of the amazing memories are made on the way to the destination. that time spent together traveling in the car, singing songs together, eating at new places, rest stops at every state line-those are just as meaningful and beautiful as those made once we reach the destination.

  • Shalzz

    Awwiee.. the baby did it! 🙂 So glad to know you had a great vacation. Hope Kochi treated you well. I am hating the heat here. But yes, spending time with mom and dad is the best thing that could happen to me now 🙂

  • Corinne Rodrigues

    I can so relate to this post as an army brat who enjoyed spending summers at the grandparents’ home! About the prickly heat, I recall our parents sending us out to dance (bare chested!) in the first rain to overcome it! 😉

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