Friendships do Break! #AtoZChallenge

Friendships do Break! #AtoZChallenge

“A broken friendship can be a comma or a full stop. You choose.”–  Source: Somewhere from the World Wide Web

Ever lost a friend, the kind with whom you could share anything under the sun? You could be your raw self and do the craziest things with them, yet have no fears of being judged. I had one some years back. A friendship I was proud of. A friendship I thought would last a lifetime. A relationship I never thought would cease.

I ain’t an authority on friendship. For that matter, on any other relationship either. Yet, the course of my life has given me a fair amount of wisdom. Like all relationships in life, friendship too is subject to the test of time. And the inevitable sometimes does happen. Years back, I walked out of a friendship that treated me unfairly. And boy, I was feeling beyond depressed!

Friendships do break

One of the reasons why friendships break, is the expectations we all place on the other person and the relationship. We fail to accept the others individuality. Things always keep changing in life, and people drift away into different paths. Thus, it is beyond anybody’s power to fit the pieces back in place.

Sometimes it’s best to move on

When any relationship turns sour, it’s worth that big attempt to make it work. But if it doesn’t, then it is best to move on. Agree we invest a lot of time, effort and emotions into it. But if feelings are not reciprocated in a similar way, there is no harm in walking out of it. It may seem daunting at first, but sooner, you realise it was the best thing to do.

Overcoming a Friendship Breakup

If you really want to get over a friendship break up, just brush your thoughts into the past and get moving building new friendships. People come and people go. And we need to keep moving on in the journey of life. Immerse yourself into something else and improve your level of confidence. Learn a new skill or get away for a while. Try a spa treatment, or do some travelling. Work on your happiness and you will wind up that miserable feeling. Comfort yourself in knowing that sometimes the pieces cannot be picked up. It could be awfully overwhelming and the pain is inevitable, but you got to push it away.

So have you ever had a friendship that turned sour? How did you overcome it?

17 thoughts on “Friendships do Break! #AtoZChallenge

  1. Yes a few – I sincerely believe ppl come into my life for a reason n walk out when it’s accomplished. No regrets for me when it comes to it.
    Some sadness yes, but no regrets. I can let go and wish them well too.
    😊

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  2. People come and people go. And we need to keep moving on in the journey of life.Perfectly expressed.I have over the last few months learnt to let go of the bitterness ,maybe not the sadness of a failed friendship.Friends have a precious part of our soul ,so its difficult ,but sometimes a necessary evil.

  3. Oh yes I agree Ramya but sometimes there are reasons which can break a friendship. I have some great friends and some not very great experiences. I dont regret those which left a sour taste in my mouth.

  4. I know what you mean. I had not one but a few and I have moved on with some and some still hurt. But it’s okay I guess. Life is like that. Not everything stays with us for long.

  5. I have to be honest… I have given up on friendships I never thought I ever would… it wasnt so much betrayal as them choosing not to be there during my bad time. That for me, was unacceptable considering I was there during their worst.

  6. I have had a bad friendship break-up! And I’m still not over it yet! it happens with me, when the connections get lost like this, these people keep coming in my dreams saying everything is okay, they’re sorry or sometimes, it’s mostly like everything is working just fine between us!

    Cheers
    BoisterousBee

  7. When you fall out with your friends, whom you would have trusted so much and looked out and looked up on , the pain is unbearable. I have had mine share. I have felt bad for long but I also happen to learn a lot. Good tips there to overcome friendship breakup.

  8. This post resonates with me so much. I had a share of this last year and yes it is heart breaking. Takes a long time to put together the pieces of your life and move on. But one thing’s for sure, when you do, you open your life out and make space for a lot of good people as well and goodness and new opportunity come your way too. It’s good to let go what’s not working out. I realise clinging on to it when the other person has moved on just gives you the heartache and no one else.

    Such is life, a journey that begins and ends with new people, new perspectives.

    Though I personally had this belief that friendships are eternal, but I was wrong. Some aren’t and yes some so are.

    Thanks for evoking these thoughts Ramya.

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  9. Although I haven’t broken up with friends, but I have grown apart from many. Maybe it’s life that came in between or the distances. A broken friendship can hurt just as bad as any other broken relationship.

  10. Friendships fade with time, only a few stand the test of time. Usually, break-ups leave us hurt and lonely. But it’s best to let go and move on. Easier said than done, but we have to do it for our own sanity!

  11. I once had a breakup with a very close friend of mine, believe me, it was so difficult that I thought I would simply forgive her of not believing me. But it would have had disgraced me of my credibility, I had to break up. Now when I think of it, it truly seems so worthless
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  12. I only had a hard friendship break up once, years ago. I still don’t know why. My friend just didnt’ want to see me anymore, and really I didn’t know what had happened. That was a hard one.

    Many other friendships just faded, and some of them really made me sad. When I was younger, I clung to them friecely, I tried to keep in touch in any way, even if I got very few answers. Today, I just accept that the friendship doesn’t exist anymore, and not because anything bad happened, just because… well, probably as you said, people change, and so do friendships.

    @JazzFeathers
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