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Not a Moment to Spare #AtoZChallenge

Not a Moment to Spare #AtoZChallenge

Not a moment to spare. We humans lead one of the busiest lives. This is true, despite the fact that things are easily available these days. Your photographs are instant, and are there in front of you immediately after you click them. You could order a meal with a swipe and click on your smart phone. Your bank is at your doorstep, and you could also book movie tickets in a jiffy, without having to stand in long queues. Everything is available at a swish, swash or click of your fingers.

Yet, if there’s one thing we all don’t have with us these days, it is “Time”. We have no moment to spare, to breathe, to relax or simply just enjoy the world around us. What an irony!! It makes me wonder, when things have actually become all so easy for us, why is it that we still can’t find time?

I distinctly remember the days of the 80’s, when mobiles were nowhere in the picture. Making a call to a loved one in another city meant booking a trunk call. We used to wait for an hour or so till the operator made that precious connection. Speaking at the top of our voices, and to our hearts content, that one conversation would make our day. It would leave behind a single smile for a long time. In today’s world of what’s app, emails, Facebook, Twitter and numerous other ways to keep in touch, we still are trying to find time to call that dear friend home. So caught up are we in our busy lives that we have forgotten to unwind ourselves with our loved ones.

I personally feel we create our own time, and somewhere we have just stopped doing so. May be if we stopped, and just looked around us, life would be easier and time aplenty.

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The Love for Diary Writing #atozchallenge

The Love for Diary Writing #atozchallenge

Yearly diaries received at the beginning of every year were a cherished commodity once upon a time. In today’s world of blogs, micro blogs and tweets has the good old practise of maintaining a humble dairy taken a set back? Has the love for diary writing died a death just like many other things?

At the beginning of 2017, my husband gave me one of those glossy good-looking diaries. It had been years since I maintained a diary. Of course, I have had ones to maintain expenses etc… but nothing to pen down day-to-day stuff. As a young kid in school I distinctly remember having a diary writing habit. Every night, i would sit at my desk and pen down my days events, what was good and not so good too. I did keep it hiding for years untill I got married. A month or so before my marriage I destroyed it all. And why did I do this? Well.. I just felt I was going to begin a fresh thing in my life, why hold on to the past?

And then I got introduced to the world of blogs. I started posting my usual ramblings, plus things which I was most seriously concerned about. It gave me a good feeling. But somewhere amidst all the blogging, I still missed the dated diaries to pen down thoughts. It was my first step at creativity and expressions.

Diaries are an honest form of self-expression. It is a place without pretence, where you can be yourself without having to worry about anything. And one of my resolutions this year was to rekindle my love for diary writing. Its the month of April, and I have managed to fill the pages with daily thoughts, so far!!!

Do you also share a love for diary writing?

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Jigsaw Puzzles Are a Joy #AtoZChallenge

Jigsaw Puzzles Are a Joy #AtoZChallenge

Are you the kinds who enjoy doing jigsaw puzzles? Then you would surely agree with me that these little cardboard pieces can be fun as well as entertaining. What if I were to give you a jigsaw puzzle with 1000 pieces to work on? Would it still hold your interest?

The gift from Russia

On a recent trip to Russia, husband picked up a beautiful jigsaw puzzle of the Kremlin, knowing my love for solving such puzzles. My excitement knew no bounds as I opened the lovely puzzle. However, it was short-lived when I glanced on the reverse of the box. The jigsaw puzzle had 1000 pieces!!! I stared back at the man of the house. What did he have in mind? How does someone go about solving a puzzle such as this, where most of the pieces look almost similar? It would probably take me a life time to complete it.

My first ever puzzle at the age of eight

It was the end of my summer vacation and the first showers of the season had just set in. My parents were looking for a way to get me through the week without me resorting to television. A second hand puzzle was borrowed from an older cousin and was given to me to try my hand at. It contained three hundred pieces, a number that was unimaginably large for a child of eight. I still distinctly remember that it depicted a standard scene of a forest with a few animals, a snow capped mountain and a blue sky. I had absolutely no idea where I should begin from. My father sat patiently with me helping me segregate pieces. We started with the straight edge pieces and slowly moved inwards. And that was when I fell in love with jigsaw puzzles.

Pieces that help you bond

Way back in the eighties and parents being from that era, seldom bought puzzles from stores. It was always beg or borrow from neighbours and friends. I finally received my very own new jigsaw puzzle at the age of twelve, when an aunt returned from the United States of America. A five hundred piece Mickey Mouse puzzle it was, that took me over two months to complete. I still remember how my sister and I would sit huddled, hovering over the pieces trying to put them in the right place. It was an amazing time, when we sisters bonded.

The 1000 piece Kremlin puzzle did get solved

Yes, indeed the Kremlin puzzle was completed over a period of four months. There was a sense of achievement. But more than this joy of seeing it complete, I loved the fact that we as a family would sit together huddled, sans television, gadgets and other distractions. The jigsaw puzzle had actually brought the whole family together every evening. They say puzzles are an excellent activity for keeping your brain sharp. They do challenge dexterity, logic and spatial reasoning. It teaches you to focus and concentrate. But for me, it is nothing but the pure joy of seeing my family together, raking their brains, to bring out a creative side. 

Ever solved a jigsaw puzzle? What was your experience?

Insecurities- We all Have them #AtoZChallenge

Insecurities- We all Have them #AtoZChallenge

“Insecurity is your intuition telling you that something’s not right… either with them or with you.” Charles J Orlando

So let’s face it. We all have insecurities, a bunch of them, at some point in life. We humans do get insecure about relationships, love, success or people. Of course how each one of us may choose to handle it greatly depend on the mental strength we have. But there is no denying insecurity does creep into each one of us.

Here I am in a very unique stage of my life.  A happy one I would like to call it, ‘because I have it all. I have a comfortable home, a dream job and career, and a loving family that gives me all the warmth and care. Yet, despite all the goodness around me, insecurities do creep within.

Insecurities aren’t positive emotions

Insecurity is a form of fear.  It may just begin from a single thought. But let this weed grow and trust me, it could stem into negativity, which may just be tough to shake off from your mind. I often get insecure about my relationships, that I may lose my loved ones, and I wouldn’t have them around me in my life. Another insecurity I have is towards my health. What if I have to face bad health towards the end of my life or, probably suffer a slow, painful and lingering death instead of a quick sudden one?

An effort to overcome insecurity

To overcome insecurity, one must develop a focus on building mental strength. It is all about being courageous and learning to accept the ways of life. Despite all the insecurities that creep within, what works for me to overcome it, is distraction. I keep myself busy; I work, exercise and tire my body and mind. It works wonders and I am soon able to brush off those negative thoughts. Of course they do come back again. But, I try to never let them bog me down.

What are your insecurities and how do you overcome it?

Home is Where the Heart is #AtoZChallenge

Home is Where the Heart is #AtoZChallenge

Home is where the heart is! Surely you must have heard this famous proverb. And that makes me wonder, where exactly is my heart? Is it in the home where I grew up and lived 25 years of my life, the place where I played and spent those blissful childhood days? Or is it in the home I live in now?

Years back….

My childhood days in the eighties and nineties were spent in a palatial bungalow in Bangalore. Life was far simpler then and Bangalore was an entirely different city too. Sans traffic, noise and pollution, the city would be full of blossoming trees. I grew up as part of a big joint family in this large home of ours. I consider myself lucky to have been part of such a huge family that lived together. The home had a huge front lawn and a backyard where there would be a washing stone (I wonder if homes still have those stones, with the advent of washing machines). Growing up was fun amidst grandparents, aunts, uncles and cousins galore. We were a total of 15 members in the home and we all shared a common kitchen!!!!!

But as the years passed, the family slowly broke away. My matriarchic grandmother, the old owl of the family passed away. It was like as though the roots of a majestic tree had all of a sudden been cut off. The next gen sought better opportunities and moved to different parts of the globe. The other elders in the family moved on to live with their own children. My father however continued to remain in our home until his last breath. In fact the only thing he wished for, when his cancer was diagnosed as terminal was to be in our home till the end. Dad is no more today. Our good old home in Bangalore stands vacant. What once was a witness to beautiful memories, relationships, joys and sorrows, it is now nothing but a dilapidated old house.

Where am I now?

It has been over ten years since I have left my childhood home in Bangalore. Married to an Officer in the Armed Forces, transfers and movements have become a constant affair. I have moved close to nine houses in my 12 years of marriage. And as much as I put in the effort to make every living quarter I live in seem like home, somewhere deep down that element of emotional attachment isn’t quite there. It’s just a roof under which I live and spend moments with husband and kids.

My heart still lies in Bangalore, though it is now nothing but a mere house!!!!

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Friendships do Break! #AtoZChallenge

Friendships do Break! #AtoZChallenge

“A broken friendship can be a comma or a full stop. You choose.”–  Source: Somewhere from the World Wide Web

Ever lost a friend, the kind with whom you could share anything under the sun? You could be your raw self and do the craziest things with them, yet have no fears of being judged. I had one some years back. A friendship I was proud of. A friendship I thought would last a lifetime. A relationship I never thought would cease.

I ain’t an authority on friendship. For that matter, on any other relationship either. Yet, the course of my life has given me a fair amount of wisdom. Like all relationships in life, friendship too is subject to the test of time. And the inevitable sometimes does happen. Years back, I walked out of a friendship that treated me unfairly. And boy, I was feeling beyond depressed!

Friendships do break

One of the reasons why friendships break, is the expectations we all place on the other person and the relationship. We fail to accept the others individuality. Things always keep changing in life, and people drift away into different paths. Thus, it is beyond anybody’s power to fit the pieces back in place.

Sometimes it’s best to move on

When any relationship turns sour, it’s worth that big attempt to make it work. But if it doesn’t, then it is best to move on. Agree we invest a lot of time, effort and emotions into it. But if feelings are not reciprocated in a similar way, there is no harm in walking out of it. It may seem daunting at first, but sooner, you realise it was the best thing to do.

Overcoming a Friendship Breakup

If you really want to get over a friendship break up, just brush your thoughts into the past and get moving building new friendships. People come and people go. And we need to keep moving on in the journey of life. Immerse yourself into something else and improve your level of confidence. Learn a new skill or get away for a while. Try a spa treatment, or do some travelling. Work on your happiness and you will wind up that miserable feeling. Comfort yourself in knowing that sometimes the pieces cannot be picked up. It could be awfully overwhelming and the pain is inevitable, but you got to push it away.

So have you ever had a friendship that turned sour? How did you overcome it?

Comparisons- We all do it, don’t we? #AtoZChallenge

Comparisons- We all do it, don’t we? #AtoZChallenge

“Enjoy your own life without comparing it with that of another.” – Marquis de Condorcet

We do it all the time. Comparing is second nature to almost each one of us. This particular human quality of making comparisons is omnipresent in our lives. And in today’s digital era, we have taken to relentlessly compare on social media too. From our looks, clothes, to what we own and our status, it is almost always that we need more.

Our life never seems complete

Almost every day we seek something more. From a bigger house, a better car, a child that aces all her subjects in school, or a holiday at an exotic destination, there is never an end to it. But when we actually sit back and think, do these comparisons lead us anywhere? Isn’t it better we re-evaluate ourselves, before we start looking at another’s life and sense it to be better?

Can we do something?

Of course we can. If you find yourself constantly drawing comparisons, here’s what you must do.

  • Be Aware. What people project may not be the absolute truth, especially on social media. So before you start to draw comparisons, be conscious and focus on your own life.
  • Take a breath. If you find yourself constantly making comparison, stop and take a breath. Do not berate yourself. Just acknowledge what another person has, and move on.
  • Acknowledge your blessings. The right attitude would be to look into what life has given you, rather than focusing on what you don’t have.
  • Accept your drawbacks. And as important as it is to acknowledge your blessings, it is equally important to accept imperfections or drawbacks you have in life. Nobody has that perfect life, and the wise thing to do is accept it. It would make you feel far more positive.
  • Don’t let criticism take over. The worst form of comparison is to indulge in criticisms. It’s common to criticize or talk ill of the other person we are comparing ourselves with, to make ourselves feel better. Don’t! You are just creating more negativity within yourself.

And finally learn to love more. Love what you have- the things, the people and the life. Want is an endless cycle and it will never lead to happiness. Try finding contentment in your surroundings and what you have been given by life.

Acceptance- There is Happiness in it! #AtoZChallenge

Acceptance- There is Happiness in it! #AtoZChallenge

Surely we humans are different from our pets in many a ways. And if you have ever had one in your life, you would exactly understand what unconditional love is. These simple beings, accept us the way we are, with all our shortcomings. On the other hand, we humans often become judgmental of others, and seldom accept another’s differences in habits and traits.

Growing up with Amma

Growing up in a highly orthodox Tambrahm home, I have been a witness to my Amma’s difficulty in handling my overly religious grandmother. Grandma would be very particular about her rituals and practices, apart from the way the home had to be run. Amma would follow her guidelines, and despite not agreeing with grandmother on many things, I have never found her talk ill about her. My father, a relatively softer person, would seldom support his young bride in front of his mother.

As I grew old enough to understand things, I have often asked Amma, why didn’t she ever make my father discuss issues with his mother? Why didn’t she ever force him to speak boldly to his mother? Call it social conditioning or unconditional love, Amma would tell me that father was a soft-natured person; hence he would never talk back to his mother. Amma had accepted his nature completely, with all his shortcomings, and did not want to force him to react to a situation in way she deemed right.

The profoundness in her words

As a young girl, I would never understand what mom really meant and would often equate it to meekness. But over the years, I have begun to realize how profound her words are. Today, I consciously try to look at things from a perspective that’s different from mine, to accept another for whom and what they are.

Acceptance is not agreeing

You don’t really need to agree to what another has to say or think or does. Acceptance is when you stop judging and expecting a person, to react or behave, in a way which you deem as right! We often tend to write our own versions of a person to suit our ego’s best interest. And this is what as humans we need to change.

Acceptance comes with its share of benefits

As I began putting in the effort towards accepting those I come across in my life, I sensed these changes:

  • I reduced dissension and resentments.
  • It brought me closer to the person, and helped me build a stronger and more fulfilling relationship.
  • I have begun to accept my own self better; my flaws and positive aspects too.
  • I sense that element of calmness within myself
Medical Store Embarrassment?

Medical Store Embarrassment?

Noticed how buying condoms is often a nerve racking and uncomfortable experience for many? It does seem quite surprising, considering the fact that, it is the step forward towards being responsible and practicing safer sex.  But then, how could I forget, we belong to a country where sexuality is always behind closed doors, and one seldom displays the minutest possibility of having any inclination. No wonder, people mumble, fumble and whisper, to buy that pack of condoms.

The medical store drama

I was at a medical store recently, and as I stood waiting to be attended to, my eyes caught sight of a middle aged gentleman. Furtively, he glanced over his shoulder and scanned at those at the stores, and then at me. When prodded by the shopkeeper, he fumbled for a pack. Barely audible, his embarrassment was evident. It was like as though he was all set to commit the gravest of crimes.  The other two customers stood with their eyes transfixed straight ahead, ‘lest their eyes make any contact with the pack. The shop keeper picked up a pack from the counters within the store, whipped out a brown paper bag and sealed the edges. It seemed like as though everyone present there wanted the transaction to be completed as soon as possible.

Sexuality- An integral part of being human

There is a large stigma associated with buying condoms. There are instances, where many drive up around 10 kms away from their home to buy that pack of condoms, to ensure those from their neighborhood aren’t watching them buying a pack. In fact, in a survey conducted, it was revealed that the embarrassment factor involved in buying condoms from a shop is the biggest factor that prevented men from using condoms to enjoy safe sex.

The portal- A cheer to many

But now, much to the cheer of many, condoms could be bought without the embarrassment factor. Yes! One can purchase any condom brand, any quantity and at any time with a click of a mouse! They need not disclose their identity and there would be no glaring eyes, no smirks and no grins. One cold purchase condoms online and get it delivered home discreetly. No hassles.

What’s in store?

The web portal condombazaar.com allows this hassle free buying of almost all condom brands in India, without the need to disclose one’s identity. Orders placed would be delivered at the door step. The portal also stocks up, female condom varieties, personal lubricants, vibrating rings and climax delay sprays.

All that the buyer needs to do is to disclose his / her email ID. No need to furnish any other personal information. The site is easy to navigate, and serves as a platform for men and women to get habituated to safe and exciting sex options. Anyone above the age of 18 years can order condoms online in India without having to feel embarrassed.

Isnt this the most convenient way?

Privacy and discretion at its best

Total privacy is guaranteed during transaction and shipping. The payment for the ordered quantity can be made online. Condom bazaar uses highly secured payment gateway, so the payments are highly secured. The word ‘condom’ will never appear in your credit card statement / bank statement. Condoms will be delivered in a discreet packaging. Other than the buyer, no one can notice that condoms are packed inside unless the packaging is completely removed. Discreet packaging ensures absolute safety and privacy.  It will be a tamper-proof and opaque outer cover.  The site has exclusive sections to educate Indian youth about sexual wellness including how to use condoms. An exclusive section for condom reviews allows users to make informed choice while they buy condoms online. The section also carries useful information’s, such as Condom Price in India and information about various condom brands in India

As much as love contributes to healthy relationships and individual well-being, sexual intimacy is an integral part too. Sexual well-being refers to many factors such as physical mental and emotional factors that impact sexual function and reproduction.

Surely with portals such as this, we are paving a way to better and more responsible sexual behavior. 

Jaago Re- It is Time to Pre-act not React with Tata Tea

Jaago Re- It is Time to Pre-act not React with Tata Tea

As I sat casually switching channels, sipping warm tea on a lazy Saturday afternoon,  the television flashed one of the most compelling and hard-hitting advertisements of recent times. Tata Tea is back again with its trademark “Jaago Re” campaign. And this time around the brand has brought into forefront what is essentially known as pre-activism, urging consumers to pre-act and not react to prevent social crises.

Pre-Activism- Isn’t it the need of the day?

If this term had to be laid out in a simple form, it is nothing but a sort of awakening, to learn and finally find an answer to underlying problems……well before one strike. The advertisement carries the potent voice of the young girl, as a bunch of people lie sleeping away in the backdrop.  

“Alarm abhi baja nahi, Rape abhi hua nahi. Kisan abhi mara nahi, abhi ye phul gira nahi. Khiladi ne medal abhi hara nahi, alarm abhi naja nahi….” (Translation from Hindi: The alarm hasn’t gone off yet, nor has the rape happened. We are awaiting farmer suicides, bridges to collapse and players to lose medals. The alarm has still not gone off….)

It is almost always, that we collectively as a society react with outrage only after apathy has befallen! We head out on candle marches. Oh well!!!! Of course express anger on social media, crib about the deteriorating law and order of the country. We boil with rage when a catastrophe strikes.

But does it really solve our issues?

Candle marches, Facebook posts, Twitter protests and arm chair activism, it’s time to change our behavior towards what affects our society. The outrage must metamorphosis into a newer form of activism- and that is prevention. Can you and I do something? Of course we can.

  • Make some noise, well before something goes wrong.
  • The government needs to hear- whether it is encouraging our sports personnel or securing the lives of our farmers.
  • Do your bit for your city.
  • Segregate and recycle waste.
  • Be sensible on the road, by doing your bit such as reducing noise pollution and road rage.
  • Raise your children, boys as well as girls responsibly.

Its high time we pre-act than react!!!!!!!